CONDITIONS WE TREAT
Relationships and codependency
Many of the things that bring people to therapy happen between people: patterns that keep repeating, relationships that cost too much, families where roles were set long ago.
Our program gives adults in California a place to understand those patterns and practice new ways of relating, in groups and in individual, family, and couples therapy.
WHAT WE HELP WITH
Relationship patterns we help with
Codependency
Organizing your life around someone else's needs, moods, or problems, often at the cost of your own. Codependency is not a formal diagnosis, but the pattern is real and common.
Enmeshment and family roles
Families where boundaries are blurred, or where you learned a role early, such as the caretaker, the peacemaker, or the one who never needed anything.
Attachment patterns
Anxious, avoidant, or push and pull patterns in close relationships.
Boundaries
Knowing what you need, saying it, and holding it, in a way that fits your culture and family rather than cutting everyone off.
Communication and conflict
Arguments that go in circles, shutting down, or saying yes when you mean no.
Compulsive relationship patterns
Relationships or behavior that feel compulsive and keep causing harm, sometimes called love addiction or sex addiction.
Relationship and family distress
Strain between partners, parents and adult children, or co parents, including support through separation.
SIGNS
Signs it may be time for more support
The same relationship problems keep repeating with different people
You feel responsible for other people's feelings
You lose yourself in relationships
You have trouble saying no, or feel guilty when you do
Conflict at home is affecting your health, work, or children
What we are
Virtual, across California. Groups and individual sessions by video, from wherever you can close a door.
An office in Fountain Valley. 8780 Warner Ave, Ste 11, for in person EMDR and for anyone who would rather be in the room.
One team, not a referral chain. Your therapist and your psychiatric provider work together on the same plan.
HOW WE TREAT IT
How we help with relationships and codependency
FAMILY SYSTEMS WORK
Drawing on Bowen family systems theory, including genograms, to see how patterns pass through generations. Meet the team
SKILLS GROUPS
Boundaries, attachment, communication, and assertiveness, including DBT interpersonal effectiveness skills.
INDIVIDUAL, FAMILY, AND COUPLES THERAPY
Sessions with the people involved when that helps, alongside the program. Our services
QUESTIONS
Common questions
Is codependency a diagnosis?
No, but it describes a real pattern, and it often travels with anxiety, depression, or trauma, which can be treated.
Can my partner or family join?
Family and couples sessions are available as an adjunct to your treatment.
Will working on boundaries mean distancing from my family?
Not necessarily. Boundaries are about protecting your peace, and we work with what fits your culture and your family.
Is treatment covered by insurance?
Most major PPO and HMO plans are accepted, including Cigna, Aetna, Anthem, Blue Cross Blue Shield, and United. Call 949.706.8610 or send us a message and we will verify your benefits before you commit to anything.
If you are in crisis or thinking about harming yourself, call or text 988 (Suicide and Crisis Lifeline) or call 911. Our program is not an emergency service.
Clinically reviewed by Angelina DeSanto, LCSW, Clinical Director. Last updated October 2026.
Other conditions we treat: Depression and mood disorders · Anxiety and panic · Trauma and PTSD · ADHD and OCD · Personality disorders · Burnout, grief, and life stress · Women's mental health · Men's mental health
WHO YOU WOULD WORK WITH
A small team you will actually get to know
Kin Wellness is run by its clinicians. The people below are the people in your groups, and the full team is on the Team page.
Cofounder and Clinical Director, LCSW #80761, Ph.D Candidate
Paola Mercado Demeza, AMFT
Cofounder and Lead Clinical Therapist, Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist #15190. Supervised by Angelina Desanto, LCSW, Ph.D Candidate
Dr. Joe DeSanto, MD
Angelina DeSanto, LCSW
Medical DirectorLET US HELP
Tell us how to reach you
Tell us how to reach you and someone from our team will call you back. The first conversation is short and confidential: what has been going on, what your questions are, whether this is the right level of care for you, and what it would cost with your insurance. There is no obligation to enroll, and if it is a fit you can start right away.
Prefer to call?
949.706.8610
Office hours Monday to Friday, 9 AM to 8 PM Pacific. In person care at 8780 Warner Ave, Ste 11, Fountain Valley CA 92708.